Let’s start with a personal values definition. Personal values are the things that are important to us, the characteristics and behaviours that motivate us and guide our decisions.
For example, maybe you value honesty. You believe in being honest wherever possible and you think it’s important to say what you really think. When you don’t speak your mind, you probably feel disappointed in yourself.
Or maybe you value kindness. You jump at the chance to help other people, and you’re generous in giving your time and resources to worthy causes or to friends and family.
Those are just two examples of personal values out of many. Everyone has their own personal values, and they can be quite different. Some people are competitive, while others value cooperation. Some people value adventure, while others prefer security.
Values matter because you’re likely to feel better if you’re living according to your values and to feel worse if you don’t. This applies both to day-to-day decisions and to larger life choices.
If you value adventure, for example, you’ll probably feel stifled if you let yourself be pressured by parents or others into making “safe” choices like a stable office job and a settled home life. For you, a career that involves travel, starting your own business, or other opportunities for risk and adventure may be more appropriate.
On the other hand, if you value security, the opposite applies. What some people would view as a “dream” opportunity to travel the world and be your own boss may leave you feeling insecure and craving a more settled existence.
A good experience to mine for values: PEAK EXPERIENCE EXERCISE
Think of a time when you could say, “Life just doesn’t get any better than this.” Maybe this time was a moment, maybe it was a day, maybe it was even longer. Really bring to your mind the picture of yourself at that time. Imagine what you are doing, who is with you, what the surroundings are like. What makes this time so wonderful? What are the colours here, the temperature? How does your body respond in this time, in this place? Really get as specific as you can.. there will be hints here about what values were present.
Or try this quiz: https://personalvalu.es
Once you have these they provide you with your own internal compass - fulfilment doesn’t come from achieving goals, it comes from fulfilling values. So take the time to slow and reflect what’s important to you in life first. Living in alignment with your values gives you peace and joy. Knowing your values can help you decide what kind of career to pursue or whether to start a business or not, what kind of relationships you should seek, or how to best resolve conflicts with others. When your values are clear, making the right decisions gets easier. We will set you off on your journey mining for our most important values. I love value work it helps us connect back to our true essence. What do we value and how can we honour these values in our day to day life!
If you want to delve in further find out more at: https://thewellbeinggirl.co.uk/the-journey-within
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